Against injunctive messages - about defiant decision in response to injunctive message

• Agnieszka Woś-Szymanowska

  Uniwersytet Medyczny im. Karola Marcinkowskiego w Poznaniu

  https://orcid.org/0000-0002-2592-6892

We accept injunctive message through an unaware decision (Goulding, Goulding, 1997, p. 13). It’s not always so obvious. We have two ways of accepting injunctive message - a despair and defiant decision. When we make a despair decision - we accept the injunctive message and live limiting our functionality in some aspect. However, when we make a defiant decision, we act in accordance with the principle of "I will show you!" and in an excessive way we prove to ourselves and others, that nothing similar concern us. Although this form of accepting injunctive message is slightly healthier, it is still destructive and a person who is experiencing it is influenced by it and works under the urge to prove something. This is a defiant decision, and excess in some aspect, is the most important clue that can help identify it. (McNeel, 2010, 159-169).

1. Agnieszka Woś-Szymanowska, Uniwersytet Medyczny im. Karola Marcinkowskiego w Poznaniu

   psychologist, business consultant, transactional analysis practitioner

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