Abstract
We have forgotten the essential nature of childhood. Such an adult has not discovered that in their loss of playfulness maturity is only reached by becoming once again like a child who gives up the need of relentless conflicting, grasping and clinging in an attempt to coerce the world. Love is the basis for original play and optimal learning. Children’s original play demonstrates that this sense of kindness is one of the most important discoveries in neuroscience; we are hardwired to connect. A loving brain becomes serves as the basis both for our long range biological survival and for our cultural advancement. Such a prosocial brain creates a different emotional framework and an alternative safe physical response with which to receive the world. With these new physical and emotional skills we create different kind of relationships.
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