How to Maintain Self-Esteem and Inner Balance in Discounting Transactions

Abstract

Discounting is a process that accompanies the life of every person. And, although this is one of the ways to distort reality, it is necessary for maintaining the stability of the world perception.

Discounting can refer to events, phenomena, tasks, objects, as well as people. It manifests itself in an internal dialogue. However, sometimes transactions are used in communication, in which internal discounting is transferred to the outside world and to other people (I call them "discounting transactions"). This often looks like non-constructive criticism.

In many cases, people experience unpleasant feelings when they are discounted.

The degree of unpleasant feelings and the possibility of restoring inner comfort depend on the Script.

The author examines this process using the concepts of Transactional Analysis and offers a specific express methodology for working with internal dialogue.

As a result of the application of the technique, the internal state of a person changes, self-esteem is restored and the possibility of Adult reaction to the Critic's stimulus appears.